Oedipal Complex

I would like to disagree with Freud about his version of the oedipal complex. What is the oedipal complex? It shows an attachment, a salacious one of the child to the mother or the father and Freud goes on to say this determines our sexuality. Actually the relation between parents and siblings is an emotional bonding and not a sexual one. Freud himself has ironically said that in order for civilization to progress it should avoid incest and murder. If the oedipal complex was correct there would have been widespread incest in society. Incest is an aberration and limited to the psychologically deviant.